Each year I try to choose a theme word to help me focus on my goals. In 2012, my theme was Self Care. It encompasses a number of other words as well. I created this word cloud poem with various supporting words.
When I take time to name the things I want in my life, those things happen.
As newlyweds, my husband and I wrote goals for one year, five year and ten years as a way to focus on what we wanted to accomplish as a couple. We noticed that we would meet most of these goals long before the projected time frame. We started reviewing these goals every 1 to 2 years and revising them as needed, since we seemed to be ahead of schedule.
When we decided to look for a new home, we each made a list of things we wanted to find in a new location. We then made a combined list of things that were non-negotiable (such as an attached garage and a basement) as well as a “wish list” of things that would be nice to have (like extra property and space for ceramics) but not crucial for our decision. We posted that list on our refrigerator. It was very helpful when we met with the realtor. Within a few months, we moved into our current home that had everything from the first list and almost all the things from the wish list. Naming what we wanted in a house helped us find our dream home.
When we had children, we didn’t always take time to review our written goals yearly, but they were always there in the back of our minds, guiding our decision making. The long-term goal list became more general with themes of hospitality, service and involvement in our children’s lives. The short term goal list often morphed into “To Do” lists of home repairs, vacation plans or events to attend. Our mantra was “Let’s put it on the calendar, or it won’t happen.” You can track our goals through the calendar during those early parenting years.
At this stage in our life, I like to simplify things. I like the idea of choosing a word or phrase for the year as an overall theme. Balance. Simplicity. Hygge. Breathe. Self care. These overarching themes keep me focused on what is important.
Words guide our decisions.
As I meet with clients for their bodywork sessions, I discover that helping them speak their goals out loud during the session can have a profound impact on their health and well-being. One person wants to feel calm or relaxed, while then next person wants to be energized or motivated. Sometimes my clients want to feel peaceful, centered, hopeful or open to new possibilities. They name these goals out loud during the session, then relax as I release held tension. I perform the same basic Zero Balancing protocol with them, but they often leave the session feeling the very thing they asked for at the beginning of the session. That is the power of the mind.
Our words become a self fulfilling prophesy.
Some people name this phenomena of the self fulfilling prophesy as “the law of attraction” or “the power of positive thinking.” Regardless of what you call it, when we speak our words out loud, our mind hears those words and unconsciously begins to align what choices we make with those thoughts. Deep down at the cellular level, our body begins to respond to what we think. This works for both positive and negative thoughts. If we are “sick and tired” of something, our physical body soon begins to feel sick and tired. If we are “happy and excited” about an event, it usually goes smoothly and exceeds our expectations. I try to educate my clients on the importance of positive thoughts because of this concept.
What are the things you desire in your life? What things do you want to accomplish? How do you want to feel? What direction are you headed in life? I hope you can take time right now and name a few things that are important in your life. Speak them out loud. Write them down and post where you can see them.
Words have power. Use them wisely.